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What a relationship should not be build upon
- “Hiding behind that person”
Hiding behind that person
Now what do I mean when I say that you’re relationship is just built on “you hiding behind that person” what I mean by this is that you are only going out with this person just because they boost your ego. The problem with a relationship that is built on this is that you let your significant other be your world. You believe that you are every single little thing your significant other says you are, and this is basically setting your relationship up for failure. The consequences I see with this is that you are going to go out your way to make your significant other happy so they could always see you in a positive light. Examples of what I mean people would probably dye their hair, move cities or colleges, change majors, and do other things that person probably doesn’t want to do just to make their significant other happy basically making them their idol. Two things will happen from this one you are probably going to come to the realization of this and hate yourself because your doing nothing that you wanted to do, or two your significant other breaks up with you and you realize that you are nothing without that person. If you are the first person and are trying to find yourself again pray and let God lead you to the person he created you to be, and if you are the second person you are great in God’s eyes you are not nothing you are a great creation ready to bring greatness into the world. Pray let God open up that thing ready to spark from inside of you.
Why do I say that a relationship built upon sex is not a good idea. The reason why I say this is because when you have sex with someone you’re building a physical and emotional bond with this person, you are basically saying that you love this person and you wont leave them. The problem with this is that sex in a dating relationship blinds all the possible inconsistencies in that relationship. When one of the partners in that relationship receives sight and realizes that they’re with a partner that is not right for them it becomes extremely hard for that person to break the relationship off. So that person always would procrastinate doing it because of the hurt that it would cause, but the more and more that person holds their thoughts in the more and more that person becomes unhappy. When the time finally comes when that person says they want to break up it brings major hurt to both parties because of their physical and emotional bond they created within that relationship. This brings up a story of a friend who was in a relationship like this, they told me how they tried to end their relationship. Every time they tried to end it the other person would always look like they would faint or throw up because of the emotional impact of the words. That is why God’s intent for sex is in marriage because sex is suppose to be the glue, the final act, a covenant that represents you saying to this person that I am for certain that I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you. Sex is not meant for dating because you’re still unsure you will be with this person for the rest of your life.
A relationship should not be built on boredom because you shouldn’t just go out with a person just because you’re bored. The consequences with this is that you’re eventually going to become bored with your partner and break up causing major hurt and move on to the next relationship not really thinking about it. This is not the intent for dating, the intent is for you to get to know someone and possibly consider if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person or not.
What should a relationship be built upon
I was sitting with a friend one day and he was talking about how he and his girlfriend just got through talking to an older church member about how to maintain their relationship. What I remember from the conversation is that he and his girlfriend decided to build their relationship upon God, forgiveness and love. When I heard this I remember thinking that sounds perfect a relationship should be built upon God, forgiveness and love.